So I recently came across this article in
Essence (my favorite magazine and website BTW) from one of the their long time contributors titled "
18 Things I Want To Teach My Daughter About Being A Woman" and after reading it I realized that everything said was vital and worth sharing not to just young girls but also women in general, both young and seasoned. This list is something that I will defiantly apply to my life and I hope after reading it you can take some point from it as well.
1. Pray. It sounds cliché, but having a relationship with God will keep you centered, humble and built to not fall
apart every time a bad wind blows.
2. Cattiness is a stereotype. Women can compliment each other, genuinely admire one another, and never be in
competition for a man, a job or anything else. Don’t believe the hype.
3. Never chase a guy. Anyone worth your time won’t make you come after him. If he runs, say bye-bye...
deuces.
4. Respect your body. Don’t let yourself be reduced to boobs, butt and hips. They’re just accessories of your
beauty, not the whole of your assets.
5. Act like a lady, get treated like a lady. Home training is getting to be more rare than real purses on Canal
Street, but women who carry themselves with class get that treatment.
6. If he won’t wear a condom, bid him goodnight. Don’t even entertain somebody who would put their own
health at risk, let alone yours.
7. Learn from other people’s mistakes. They happened before you for a reason. Take advantage of the
opportunity to get a free life lesson without the headache of the drama.
8. Nude undergarments are your friend. Don’t be one of those chicks who slides white linen slacks over red
panties and thinks it’s her style that’s stopping traffic.
9. Run far from a guy who doesn’t respect his mama. If he can’t treat the woman who brought him into the
world like a queen, he probably isn’t going to do it for you, either.
10. Don’t be afraid to be take risks, but take smart risks. Research, meditate and then be adventurous. A life
full of regret isn’t a full life.
11. Don’t let your circumstances drain your ambition. Things are, at some point, going to suck. But that
doesn’t mean you should stop striving toward your goals.
12. Never, ever expect a man to do for you what you can do for yourself, which is just about everything.
If a dude comes along and wants to take care of you, that’s beautiful. But until he shows up -- and in case he never does -- learn how to do as much as you can.
13. Be serious about your money. Take care of your credit and learn how to budget what income you have. And
don’t get talked into co-signing a loan for anyone. That good credit will be gone quicker than a sobering dude after a one-night stand.
14. Here’s the formula: marriage then babies. There’s a reason the Lord designed it that way. If you’re going
to have sex, there are too many birth control options to wind up knocked up. Protect yourself.
15. Friends are going to come and go. Not everyone is going to be in your life forever. Enjoy them while they’re
there but let them go if and when you grow out of them.
16. Take care of yourself. Your health is the most important thing you have, and it fuels the thousand and one
things you want to do. Work out, eat well and drink water every day, even if you have to force yourself.
17. Laugh. Nobody likes a dud, and being dry and crotchety makes you look old way before your time.
18. Love yourself. Even when you don’t understand yourself, even if you have a muffin top, even if you lose a
